Joan Didion

The year of magical thinking

… “you can love more than one person.” Of course, you can, but marriage is something different. Marriage is memory, marriage is time. “She did not know the songs, “I recall being told that a friend of a friend had said after an attempt to repeat the experience. Marriage is not only time: it is also, paradoxically, the denial of time. For forty years I saw myself through John’s eyes. I did not age.
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Time is the school in which we learn, /Time is the fire in which we burn: Delmore Schwartz again.